Friday, June 2, 2017

Ahh...the mansplaining to a writer

I don't usually do this but it pissed off me off enough so what the fuck, here is the copy and paste from the exchange. 
First of all this is a retweet group where you post your tweet and others retweet-how it's supposed to go really but people don't always get it. All I want/need is your retweet the way I did for yours, no comment wanted or desired.
But is struck me that first day and has been bugging me ever since  (hence me being on meds) at first it was, he's an idiot let it go. But also it was just as I said, women need other women-not men-writing romance for all women of different shaped and sizes. When you go into the clothing stores they are kind enough not to use short and fat they use petite-which means the exact same thing. And for a fucking man to think he needs to explain to me what petite means.....FUCK YOU. 
That this fucking moron states he writes erotic romance is quite frankly scary that he is plotting and putting words in a woman's mouth and that any woman is to believe it. If men want to write one handed shorts go for it but for romance, you have to understand a woman, care about women, what they think, feel, believe and the why behind all of that. 
Can some men do that? Maybe if like Wally Lamb you were stuck in a woman's prison for hours on end day after day and truly feel empathy for a woman then sure. 

And that is the problem so few men feel empathy period let alone for what a woman goes, through on a daily basis, the constant chipping away of self-esteem that happens just standing in the grocery store line at all the svelte, sexy, photoshopped women as they already spending a half hour to an hour just buying groceries, maybe the cookies that after looking at the photoshopped woman they either put back or end up eating two more than they really want because damn it the woman was photoshopped not real. 

Or the way they have to be mom, dad, teacher, house cleaner, driving, best friend, care taker when they just want some alone time and so they use that by climbing into a book where the woman isn't perfect, the man is hot and although love doesn't go smoothly it still goes. 

And that's why  I write. 
Ian Smith Teeny bit bemused trying to imagine a petite BBW 
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Fiona Aina Murphy and its men saying things like that that are the reason women need women writers to write bbw
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Ian Smith You mean a short bbw? Petite normally means small in every sense.
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Fiona Aina Murphy petite means short period
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Ian Smith Misunderstood. To me "Petite" means small and slender.
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Fiona Aina Murphy Petite. For women 5' 3" and under

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Fiona Aina Murphy and again that's why women need bbw books and women writers who actually understand women period









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